We’ve lost another one. His name was Jamey Rodemeyer and he was 14 years old.
Whenever I read a story like this one or this, I just feel totally devastated. So much promise, so much to give, and then in a moment it’s all gone. Jamey wanted things to get better. He tried to convince himself and others they would get better. But things didn’t get better for Jamey, at least not better enough.
As one of the co-founders of the It Gets Better project said on his blog: The point of the “It Gets Better” project is to give kids like Jamey Rodemeyer hope for their futures. But sometimes hope isn’t enough. Sometimes the damage done by hate and by haters is simply too great. Sometimes the future seems too remote. And those are the times our hearts break. Count my heart among those that are breaking.
I just had a post a week ago about the failure of the school system in Anoka, Minnesota, to protect kids against bullying. That doesn’t appear to have been the case here. Jamey had been bullied, no doubt about it, but it’s hard to know from reading the story exactly what he was feeling and thinking in those final moments of his life.
Look, I don’t know if anyone out there reading my blog or my story ever thinks about suicide. I hope not because suicide is never the answer. Never! If you do think about it, however, please talk to someone. I’m not going to try to kid you into believing that everything will get better just by talking or just by growing older or just by graduating from high school. It doesn’t work like that.
Life is hard. But it can get better and there are people who can help.
More importantly, there are people who want to help. People who love you. People whose lives will be devastated if you’re no longer a part of it. Don’t believe it? You’re wrong!
There are people who love you. Please let them into your life. They want to be part of it. They want to help make it better.